“IT’S NOT FAIR”

original post date: 12/28/10

Fair??? There is no freaking FAIR in this world. We try to be decent people, and do the correct thing. Well, that is some of us do.
Yet there is always that one person who expects you to do it all for them. And when you say NO they start begging, and saying “it’s not fair.” I had to stop & really figure out what I should say and how I wanted to say it.

Not Fair … not when you have to watch a person bury their child. Not fair … when you watch soldiers deploy to a country with a high chance of dying. Not fair … when you see a young child living in a car, or on the streets. Not fair … when you watch the news over a child who’s supposed family killed them. Not fair … is simply what you will find when you look around life. Not fair … Not fair … Not fair … is something all of us are tired of hearing.
Yes you can find “fair” when you get off your butts and start making it happen. Learning to understand that religions are differently, not forcing yours on others, and finding a way to accept them. Learning to know that some people should not be allowed to raise children, to understand when they start reaching out for help. Learning to accept when you can do something & not feel worthless because of it. Learning to control rage, and know when to stop … and find someone when you know you need help to prevent it.
There is so much more to create “fair” but does the list have to keep going? After all that is just the simple start of the list. Watch the news, read the paper, listen to the talks of adults … because you will hear so much that is considered “not fair”. But the most amazing part? Is how they many handle it. When it’s done with out harming another, you will see more “fair” than you would ever expect.
Remember: Life is not fair, it is not some freaking fairy tale. There is no “happily ever after” unless each of us makes the steps to find it. You will still have your ups & downs, but it will be the choice you made.

I am rather sick of hearing “not fair” from so many people. Each day my husband & I wake to raising our 3 amazing boys, and our beautiful granddaughter. We wake each day to check on our daughter, who has moved out & on with her life. Each day we wake knowing that the only way we can have that “happy ending” is by enjoying what we have. Yes there are things that we would like, but to be honest, they are things that we may truly not need. We wake each day knowing that life may give us a little twist or a massive one. But each day we work though it. That is how we find out “fair” in life.

Stop looking at the “not’s” in your life, and look at what you have. Because that is the only “fair” you are gonna find. Go build your castle, or our house with a white picket fence, or what ever you want … but do it with a bit more common sense.

Once Upon A Time to Happily Every After

original post date: 9/21/10

To be honest, there are few people in this world doing exactly as they planned in life. It is amusing that many people will keep a job they truly do not like. They will have friends they “tolerate.” They do task in life, not only because they need done, but because they want to feel normal.

Why work in a place to earn a check? You should work where you are having fun, enjoying what you do, and those you work with. If you are putting yourself in a position or situation where you are not liking what you are doing, then you are putting yourself under more stress than necessary. That NEGATIVE stress can cause ulcers, crankiness, heart attack, and what ever else chooses to effect. Get what you need (experience, education, and a positive work history), and then get into the job you want. The job that will be your career, something that you can walk in with a smile and keep it thought out the day.
”Tolerated” friends, hmm that just sounds wrong. I mean to tolerate them? I love my friends, I have learned to accept the good & bad in them … although I have made a few mistakes with some of them (I am freaking human). If you “tolerate” them, then you aren’t where you should be. People are fun to be around, comical, entertaining, considerate, and so much more. They are the ones we trust with our secrets. The ones we help when they are down, and they return that favor. If you don’t have friends like that, then a great suggestion would be to find them … or you can stay miserable, your choice.
Every day there are tasks that we have to get done. Taking a shower, brushing teeth, eating, getting that project at work complete, and that list does go on & on. Don’t do them because you feel you have to. Do them because you want to, because you need to. Definitely do not do them to make yourself appear “normal,” after all what is “normal?” Is it going out with your friends on a regular basis? Is it completing a task that gets you nothing but another one right after it? Personally I don’t want to be grouped in the “normal” category, I prefer simply being me, the personality that developed though out my life. Good or  bad, it’s simply mine. So why

There isn’t a fairy tale ending out there, either. What is out there is life. It can be easy or hard, it can tear you apart or make you smile because what you have completed.

When I was a kid, I listen to the fairy tales. At one time, I believed that a knight in shining armor would arrive … but I was very young, and naive. The only knight you are gonna have is yourself. As for the armor, well you can build it around your heart but what are the costs?

 

 

 

There isn’t a “normal” out there.